Sometimes winning and argument is actually losing. Is it worth it, is the question? Sometimes we fight so hard to be right that we are missing what the underlying issue really is. Most of the time the thing you are arguing about is the not the thing. It is just the thing that was a trigger.
But if we are fighting to prove our point you may end up missing what’s really going on. Is it more important to be right? Or is it more important to come to a peaceable solution that could potentially alleviate future arguments and get to the root of what’s really going on?
I was talking to someone and they said that after an argument with their mate they are always the one to go back and apologize or try to restart the conversation in a different way. They stated that they were tired of doing that and they were tired of being the bigger person. I simply stated to them that if that was the case then just make this the end of the relationship. (Harsh statement right? But I needed them to see a different point of view.