Standing in the essence of who you are and to boldly show up is a courageous thing to do. But Why? It should be so easy to be who you are, because who else would you be? All our lives we are taught behave a certain way, and speak a certain way all while remaining authentically you. There are whats called societal norms, there are best practices, and industry norms. But, if we normalize everything at what point do we get to stand in our greatness and be our true selves? When do we get to fully develop and become who we were born to be?
I have to admit that at one point I lost myself in the rubble of who I thought everyone thought I should be or the image I thought was me. Or maybe it was the image I wanted to be so that I would be liked or better received. Either case, one day I woke up and as I was looking in the mirror I didn’t recognize the woman who was looking back at me. I didn’t know when it happened, I just remembered that I wasn’t living in the truest and highest version of myself.
And truth be told I couldn’t figure out where I went wrong at. Whenever I am feeling lost or feeling like I don’t know what is going on. I sit and have conversations with my husband, who is a wise man of few words (that’s because I have all the word’s, lol) He always either knows how to comfort and encourages my soul or simply set me straight with his at times no holds bard approach. Either way, he knows how to get me all the way together:) Lets just say, he is not having any of that woe is me stuff I’ve conjured up in my head. Especially not from his smart, intelligent and beautiful wife. (His words not mine) Hey I’ll take it!! But seriously though, sometimes you need someone who is able to see you and all your greatness, who is able to see the gifts in you and reaffirm them, pick you up and set you back on your way.
But that is only half of it, the other half is this:
- You get to decide who you are and who you want to be.
- Try different things to discover what you like and don’t like.
- Stop doing things that don’t make you happy or bring out the best in you.
- Always check in with yourself. If you see your attitude has changed ask yourself why and search out your soul for the answers, and once you discover what it’s all about make a new decision.
- Remember, you can course correct at anytime, if it’s not working try it a different way until you get the results you want. Just don’t keep doing the same things and expecting a different result (That’s insane)
Once you take yourself through this process, the true you will begin to emerge, because now you are digging and when you dig you make discoveries. One of the biggest parts of being your authentic self is to always tell yourself the truth. I am a big advocate of truth slaying to yourself, even if you don’t tell to others, always be real with yourself. Even if you have to cry, because yes, the truth can hurt but it can also free you.
So, If you have ever found yourself lost, or just wandering around life- stop and check your internal GPS; find out where you are first so you can chart where you should be.